Sara, Montréal QC (2/4)
"I didn’t feel any special bond the first time I met her. It seemed like I couldn’t do it at the hospital. I was caring for her when she needed to nurse, but other than that, we learned to tame each other only when we went back home. It was frightening. Thankfully my partner had taken his full five-week paternity leave to stay with us. I don’t know how I would have done it alone. I needed to be with both of them to learn how to become a mother. I never had this need to be the ‘first parent’ or the 'number one expert' of our kid. My partner and I had her together, and we would have had as much fun to share every moment of her first year together too. But our work situation meant he had to go back to work before me. It was rough. At the same time, it’s only when I had time alone with her that I really found myself as a mother. It allowed us to foster our love and relationship. Love doesn’t just happen, it’s being built through an overwhelming sense of caring. It’s ‘to care’ that makes you a parent. It takes effort. I hope she won’t resent me one day for having said that."