Lisa, Stafford VA (4/4)
“After having each baby, we’d put the older kids in daycare so they could keep their routine. We also wanted to spend that postpartum period just with the new baby. Having my husband with me for the full three months was everything. I wouldn’t have had three kids if he hadn’t been there with me. He was even able to stay home longer than I did almost every time. He gets to use FMLA and had leave built-up from the Fire Department. We would do movie marathons: Stars Wars or Lord of the Rings or Harry Potter. We would just blend in together with the baby, watch every single movie, and order food. That was our routine with all of them and the best bonding. I thought I’d go nuts with him around for three months, but it never happened. We ended up having a common goal and became more of a team. We had to work together. It couldn’t be ‘You grab one and I grab one, or you take a break.’ If I was sleep-deprived, he was too, and we’d both be in it together the next day. Once we went back to work, it was a little bit different because we had two different schedules, but by then, both of us knew how ridiculous and crazy it was to have three kids! Having him there with me was everything."